Many people with invisible illnesses often make an effort to smooth their hair, conceal tired eyes, and apply a little makeup, regardless of how they feel. This becomes their mask, the “war paint” they wear to face the world. However, there are days when putting on that mask feels impossible, and on those days, they may go out with a bare face, but still smile through the discomfort.
When you see someone who looks exhausted or drained, instead of commenting on how tired they look, try asking if they need anything or offering help, a compliment, or any kind of positive gesture. People who struggle with invisible illnesses often wear makeup to cover the signs of physical symptoms, such as pale skin, numbness, ringing in the ears, or blurred vision. These symptoms can be triggered by things like low blood pressure or fatigue, but they keep pushing through, attempting to appear “normal” for the sake of society.
Every day can be a challenge, big or small. On particularly tough days, it can feel very lonely and isolating, as if no one understands. Many people don’t see the struggles because the person looks healthy on the outside. This can be dismissive and disheartening, especially when those suffering try to reach out, only to feel as though their struggles are minimized or overlooked.
It’s important to remember that not everyone is in a place where they can wear their “war paint” and mask their discomfort. A little understanding and kindness can go a long way in making someone feel seen and supported during their struggle.