Everything Is Going To Be Fine
Talking to certain friends can be very difficult or even stressful. I’ve learned that not all friends are cut out for every conversation. Some friends are there for the fun moments, chatting about crushes, making silly jokes, or discussing the latest drama. That’s great and it’s nice to have those moments, but sometimes, it’s not enough.
I often find myself dealing with stressful news about my health, and in the past, I’d get resentful and frustrated when I’d try to talk to close friends, only for them to immediately change the topic to something trivial or random. It made me feel completely dismissed. I’d sometimes hope they’d check in on me to see how I was doing, but they never did. It was like I had never said anything at all.
Recently, I had a health scare, and their response was, “Everything is going to be fine.” I’m a generally positive person, and I appreciate those kinds of conversations, but sometimes I just want to talk about what’s really going on. Sometimes, everything isn’t fine, and that’s okay. Maybe it will be fine again, but life can be overwhelming and scary at times. It’s not always okay to sugarcoat things or try to make it seem better than it is. Sometimes, I just want to talk about the raw, real things happening, make a plan, and get support. Venting is part of that too.
But I did realize that I do have some friends who also face health struggles, and I could lean on them. I also see a therapist, which has been incredibly helpful for me—sometimes it’s just easier for a professional to handle the deeper, more difficult conversations than friends who may not fully understand. It’s allowed me to depend on my friends a little less for the heavy stuff.
Additionally, joining online support groups or communities—whether through Facebook or other forums—has been really helpful. I’ve found people who understand what I’m going through, which helps me feel less isolated.
When you’re constantly battling your health, it’s important to remember that not everyone has been through the same struggles. Not everyone understands, and that’s okay. Find your army of people who can be there for you, keep your chin up, and don’t let those on the sidelines make you feel bad for not knowing how to fight your battle. And don’t forget—seeking professional help is an option too. It’s been a game-changer for me, and I encourage everyone who struggles with their health to consider it.
